Anatomy of Love --- 爱情解剖？

解剖开来，爱情是什么？

1992年，Dr. Helen Fisher出版了一本书。不是Human Anatomy，不是Brain Anatomy (更加不是Gray's Anatomy，:P)，是Anatomy of Love。


在里面，她提出了所谓的“爱情三部曲”理论：

1) Lust - an intense longing.

Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything". Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role.

2) Attraction - an action that tends to draw people together.

This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.

3) Attachment - a bonding progression.

This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!

When a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking.

看完了这些论述之后，有什么想法吗？

觉得爱情像不像一个生物？它会成长，会变化，会升华。当爱情悄悄在你身里心里发芽时，你感觉到了吗？那些砰然心动的时刻，小鹿乱撞的感觉，刻骨铭心吗？然后随着时间的推移，爱情它像一棵树，在向上长高，也在向下长深，直到有一天，爱情，还有爱情里的她/他，跟你已经融为一体，难舍难分。

爱情，是不是就是这样？




Venus

ps:

英文references摘自http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Helen_Fisher_(anthropologist)和http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/index.shtml#for_against1。