Anatomy of Love --- 爱情解剖？

解剖开来，爱情是什么？

1992年，Dr. Helen Fisher出版了一本书。不是Human Anatomy，不是Brain Anatomy (更加不是Gray's Anatomy，:P)，是Anatomy of Love。


在里面，她提出了所谓的“爱情三部曲”理论：

1) Lust - an intense longing.

Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything". Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role.

2) Attraction - an action that tends to draw people together.

This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.

3) Attachment - a bonding progression.

This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!

When a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking.

看完了这些论述之后，有什么想法吗？

觉得爱情像不像一个生物？它会成长，会变化，会升华。当爱情悄悄在你身里心里发芽时，你感觉到了吗？那些砰然心动的时刻，小鹿乱撞的感觉，刻骨铭心吗？然后随着时间的推移，爱情它像一棵树，在向上长高，也在向下长深，直到有一天，爱情，还有爱情里的她/他，跟你已经融为一体，难舍难分。

爱情，是不是就是这样？




Venus

ps:

英文references摘自http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Helen_Fisher_(anthropologist)和http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/index.shtml#for_against1。

问世间情为何物

“问世间情为何物，直教人生死相许”

上面两句出自元朝词人元好问的一首叫作《摸鱼儿· 雁丘词〉〉词。后来在著名武侠小说大师金庸的作品里得到广泛流传。

中国人啊，从很久以前，就开始从哲学思考的角度去探讨爱情了吧。呵。

本来嘛，关于两性关系、爱情关系这样的话题，很多人可能会想到那本叫做Men are from Mars, women are from Venus的有名的书，但我在这里不要介绍这本书，也不要介绍这本书的作者John Gray。至于原因是什么，我在这里也不想多说，相信对这本书和这位作家有些较深入了解的人会知道。

而关于现代爱情学，我必须介绍一位在这方面的佼佼者，她的名字叫做Dr. Helen Fisher。1992年，她推出了她的一本书，叫做The Anatomy of Love，从此在爱情学上崭露头角。The Anatomy of Love跟同样在1992年出版的Men are from Mars, women are from Venus是截然不同的作品。此后她还陆续出了好多书本，做了不少研究，推出过不少理论。。在她的个人网页上，写着这样的介绍：

Helen E. Fisher, PhD, is Research Professor and member of the Center forHuman Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology, Rutgers University. She has conducted extensive research on the evolution and future of human sex, love and marriage and gender differences in the brain andbehavior.

Anthropologist。。。人类学家？嗯。爱情，就是人类的事情吧。从开天辟地开始，有人就有爱，也因为有爱才会继续有人吧。

问世间啊，情为何物。古人不会从科学的角度去探讨这些问题，但现在时代不同了，人们看事情的方法和角度也很不一样了。也许用现代的眼光，可以看出比以前更新、更引人深思的方面哦。






Venus


注：
Dr. Helen Fisher的网页-http://helenfisher.com/
Dr. Helen Fisher的blog-http://chemistry.typepad.com/the_great_mate_debate/dr_helen_fisher_1/index.html Rutgers 大学里介绍Dr. Helen Fisher的网页-http://anthro.rutgers.edu/faculty/fisher.shtml
这里有她演讲的video-http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/16

图片取自http://61.139.30.6/cai/8/1_7BEBif91KIfw.jpg